Why We Stayed Series  (Some identifying information such as names, dates, and locations have been redacted to protect the identities of survivors telling their stories.)  By Patrice Tillery and Veronica Thomas  Deciding to leave an abusive relationship is a painful journey marked by deep internal conflict. For many survivors, the choice is not just about […]

Read More… from Part 3: Why We Left: The Breaking Point & Finding the Strength to Finally Leave

Why We Stayed Series  (Some identifying information such as names, dates, and locations have been redacted to protect the identities of survivors telling their stories.)  By Patrice Tillery and Veronica Thomas  Patrice and Veronica share their experiences to shed light on the complexities of gender-based violence (GBV). Telling their stories is a healing process that […]

Read More… from Part 2: Why We Stayed: The Struggle with Hope, Identity and Courage

Why We Stayed Series  (Some identifying information such as names, dates, and locations have been redacted to protect the identities of survivors telling their stories.)  By Patrice Tillery and Veronica Thomas  “If he was so abusive, then why did she stay?”  Often, when people hear about someone in an abusive situation or relationship, they ask, […]

Read More… from Part 1: Why We Stayed: Unveiling the Invisible Barriers to Escaping Abuse 

“Things Survivors Wish You Knew” is a heartfelt and empowering series, rooted in the voices of survivors of gender-based violence. This collection shares stories and insights to help build understanding and offer meaningful support for those navigating abusive situations. From practical advice to emotional support, this series explores key messages survivors wish their loved ones […]

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Things Survivors Wish You Knew Series  By Patrice Tillery As we close out this series, we wanted to end with a note directly from a survivor. There are many things we have shared this month about common themes that survivors of gender-based violence express that they wish their loved ones knew. As an intentionally survivor-centered […]

Read More… from Part 7: Things I Wish I Knew: Some Notes from a Survivor’s Perspective 

Things Survivors Wish You Knew Series  By Patrice Tillery In addressing the pervasive issue of gender-based violence, it is crucial to recognize and combat the all-too-common phenomenon of victim blaming. Unfortunately, victims are often wrongly held responsible for the abuse they endure, perpetuating harmful myths and misconceptions within society.   It is essential to debunk these […]

Read More… from Part 6: Remember, It Is Not My Fault  

Things Survivors Wish You Knew Series  By Patrice Tillery Today’s Things Survivors Wish You Knew topic is patience. Patience is the ability to remain calm and tolerant in facing difficulties, adversity, or delays without becoming frustrated or upset. It entails the capacity to endure or wait calmly for something, demonstrating understanding and tolerance toward situations […]

Read More… from Part 5: Be Patient  

Things Survivors Wish You Knew Series  By Patrice Tillery Understanding trauma in abuse victims is crucial for providing adequate support and care. Trauma can alter how individuals perceive and respond to the world around them and often leaves enduring emotional and psychological scars. Survivors of abuse may exhibit a range of responses to their trauma, […]

Read More… from Part 4: Understanding the Impact of Trauma  

Things Survivors Wish You Knew Series  By Patrice Tillery The topic for this portion of the series is arguably one of the most challenging parts of supporting survivors. After actively listening and learning about the trauma and abuse occurring in a survivor’s life, it’s hard not to step in, share our beliefs, or tell the […]

Read More… from Part 3: Respect Survivors’ Choices

Things Survivors Wish You Knew Series  By Patrice Tillery During challenging times, we rely on hope to bring light when we perceive darkness surrounding us. BWJP invites you to join us in generating the hope that lights the way to safety and healing for gender-based violence survivors.     Throughout this series, we will share survivor stories […]

Read More… from Part 2: Believe Survivors, Listen to them, Don’t Pressure Them